This should be one of the last blogs I write about losing weight until I have lost the weight.

But you want to know what made me start thinking about my having gained weight? People TELLING me that I have gained weight.

My (Asian) boss is the primary offender. He's been telling me to lose weight since, I don't know, probably last November. Probably even earlier than that. He told me that I don't do anything at college; that I eat and eat and don't work out, so I gain weight. Just last night he told me that I needed to get the fat off of my body and keep it off.

Another offender is the (Asian) cashier at work. Before Christmas break, she said to me, "You look so different than from when I first met you." I replied, "Bigger?" and she replied, "...Yeah." Like, seriously? Sorry I can't be a little petite Asian like you. She gave me a beautiful Chinese dress that was a LITTLE too small for me right before Christmas. Two weeks ago, I wore the dress to Chinese New Year so she could see the dress on me. What does she say? No, not "Oh, inhuman, you look so nice!" or "I'm glad you're finally wearing the dress!" No. She says to me, "Looks like you won't be able to eat a lot tonight."

I'M SORRY, BUT WHAT THE LITERAL FUCK!?

And then the last main offender (who hasn't taken any stabs at me lately) is one of the (Asian) servers at the restaurant. He was working the same day that the cashier gave me the dress. He asked me to hold it up for him so he could see it. And what does he say? "Wow, that's a really pretty dress. Maybe if you lose some weight you can fit into it."


I am just totally spent with people telling me I've gained weight, and then not being able to fight any craving I get. I've gained weight, but I am not overweight. I just want people to shut the fuck up, sometimes.

Solution: avoid Asian people. XD

Seriously though those people are really rude. I know it's a big thing (like, really really big) in certain Asian cultures to be thin, but... saying that stuff to strangers... I dunno. To some degree, I do see it as a cultural difference (telling you what they think you need to do to better fit in; conformity tends to be more valued than individuality I think), but it's not something that's easily brushed off.

My personal experience with Asians is that a lot of times they'll say things that come off as offensive or hurtful but weren't really meant to be, just weren't conveyed in a tactful manner. Hell, I'm guilty of that myself. Think it just comes from my mom always pointing out my flaws and thinking it's normal to do that.

I guess on the bright side, your weight is something you have some control over, so it's not like they're insulting something you can't change. :/
» randomjunk on 2012-02-04 11:42:50

I have actually had the same problem, hahaha. I don't care as much, but it's still pretty weird for people I haven't seen in a while to say that I look more...fleshy. I'm already bothered by my fleshiness!
» middaymoon on 2012-02-05 01:08:54

wow. what is wrong with these people?
» renaye on 2012-02-07 07:40:46

Also, what's a literal fuck?
» middaymoon on 2012-02-08 09:54:41

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